The more I do this adulthood thing, the more I realize few things in life are ever really certain. Jobs switch, moves happen, people come and go. We are in a constant state of motion, moving forward, stepping backward or swaying somewhere in-between. Few things remain the same. But if we are lucky, we can stop and think about our hopeful handful of certainties. These are the aspects in our lives that stick with us through thick and thin, in seasons of triumph and trials. Their truths are engraved so deeply in our hearts, we can confidently say that if they changed, it would change who we are.
So, I decided to do it. I sat down and wrote my top five you will never hear me say. And even though it’s been said that we should never say never, these realities are my exceptions. And it makes me wonder, Dear Reader… what would be on your list? What would be your handful? If you are feeling daring, I would love to know 🙂
1.) I hate chocolate. I mean, let’s start this off light, but completely serious. I will never betray chocolate. I believe God made this manna from heaven because He knew we would need phyiscal proof that He is good. For real. When I need a pick me up… chocolate. When I need to reward myself… chocolate. When I need something to bribe my kids with… chocolate. When my husband wants to show me he loves me… chocolate. It really is the answer to almost any problem, and it is the taste I just couldn’t live without. Chocolate and I are here to stay.
2.) I can go it alone. There are times I like to pretend I can do things without the support and encouragement of others, including God, but who am I kidding?! I need my people. I can’t do life without others by my side, something our Creator knew full well… He knew we needed relationships with other humans. He knew we needed authenticity with those we trust and fellowship with people we enjoy. God, Himself, is extremely relational. He could have made the universe and left it at that, but His heart craved closeness with His children. Our Father moved heaven and earth just to be with us. Jesus left His throne room in order to walk by our side. His love is no joke. It is infinite and true and full of grace. And as He walked with God’s Sons and Daughters, He called them by name. He called them His dearest friends. If God chose to never go it alone, I figure it’s okay for me to never do it either.
3.) Family isn’t important. Kind of piggy-backing off of the previous point, I could never NOT put my family first. Sure I have passions and dreams and work that I want to pursue. But in the end, if I pursue those things harder than the people God has given to me, a part of my soul will feel it. My husband and boys are my world. My parents, grandparents, siblings and their families help make me who I am. No family is perfect and relationship strains happen, but nonetheless, every relationship within my family is important. They help me grow and give and love, and I am so blessed to experience those things in return. Even if we experience pain and heartache within our earthly families, God extends a royal invitation to His children… an invitation to sit at the table and dine with the King of Kings in His Kingdom. We are part of a holy family that will never fade, a kinship that is eternal and powerful. We can never remove ourselves from this family, and our Father can never remove His love from us. It’s the deepest part of who we are, and it always comes first.
4.) There’s nothing for me to do. Sure, I have a house full of boys, with chaos and clutter following me wherever I go. There is never dull moment, and I never get to the end of my to-do lists. Still, as I push past the surface level mess, I realize God has called me to do great and glorious things. Sometimes I forget who I am, and I forget my role on the is earth. But when Jesus gently reminds my heart of the truth, I can’t help but stand a little taller. I am His. I am important. And I am going to change the world. As long as I am breathing there will always be something for me to do, but I want to make sure I’m doing the right things. Things that make a difference and reflect His ultimate purpose… loving others well and loving Him. As long as everything I’m doing points to those two imperatives, all other things will fall into place. The white noise in our culture is at an all-time high, but God’s voice will always break through. As He speaks His life into my heart, He wants me to share this life with the world. He wants me to know my worth and embrace my identity. And I pray I get to be a part of others discovering theirs.
5.) God is not real. I’m sorry, but God has just done too much in my life to deny His existence. He’s changed me in ways I never thought possible, and He’s saved me from things I never could escape on my own. And it’s not just me… I’ve seen countless lives transformed by the power of His love. Relationships restored. Pasts redeemed. Hearts healed. There’s just too much evidence pointing to the truth of His personhood and character. His beauty is part of my soul. His Spirit is part of my life. His goodness defines who I am. He knows me and loves me and has changed everything I am. Many other religions have gods and goddesses that require sacrifice and service and perfection in order to gain acceptance. But the God of the Bible is the only God who did the opposite. He sacrificed everything so we could be with Him. Jesus’ life was laid down in order to make the unseen seen. It was a tangible expression of His faithful promise to make all things new and brings us back to Him. There’s no other love like His out there. Not in any religion or any church or any relationship. His grace is perfect, so we don’t have to be. If that’s not real love folks, I don’t know what is.
Dear friends, we need to know what we know for sure. It’s worth the time and energy to write these things down in our hearts. Because yes, few things in life are truly certain. But it’s the precious few that make life worth living.